About Me

Hi, thanks for dropping by. My name is Christy. Or you can call me RoS. I’ll answer to just about anything, especially if you have cookies.

I am a runner. I have run a marathon and several half-marathons. I started running with the Couch to 5k program, and as cheesy as it sounds, it really did change my life.

I am a music, book, quote and movie geek, but music is my passion. I love all music, yes, even rap and country. I pride myself on not being a music-snob though; you know the type.

I am a recovering alcoholic. I’m not big on labels, but truly, I cannot drink in moderation, nor have I ever been able. My last drink was on May 06, 2011.

There are many paths to a healthy recovery; no single method or program is better than another, as long as it works for you. Recovery meetings and lots of sugar helped me get sober; running, blogging, honesty and not drinking are some current tools that help me stay sober.

As far as posts, I tend to write about music, life, death and grief, getting and staying sober, silver linings, running, and mindfulness. I tend to keep a sober-centric focus, but not always. I guess I’d say I write about the process and evolution of living a sober life. At most, I may post twice a week.

I am lucky to have two of my dear friends as contributors and conspirators here at Running on Sober: Jennie (CK Hope) from Daisies From Dust and Michelle from MamaMickTerry

Jennie hosts the series “The Other Side,” and Michelle hosts the series “The Braveheart Chronicles.” We just wrapped up the “Life in 6 Songs” series, but you’re welcome to check out past posts.

I keep a page here for motivational and inspirational videos and a contact and resources page with a variety of addiction and mental health links. I hope they are beneficial to you.

My blog name is inspired by the Jackson Browne song “Running on Empty.” Except I’m not empty, I’m just sober.

In closing, this quote from American Beauty pretty much sums up my views on life:

“I guess I could be pretty pissed off about what happened to me
but it’s hard to stay mad when there’s so much beauty in the world.
Sometimes I feel like I’m seeing it all at once, and it’s too much,
my heart fills up like a balloon that’s about to burst…

and then I remember to relax,
and stop trying to hold on to it,
and then it flows through me like rain
and I can’t feel anything but gratitude
for every single moment
of my stupid little life…

You have no idea what I’m talking about, I’m sure.
But don’t worry.

You will someday.”

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I (including Jennie and Michelle) appreciate, encourage and respond to most comments. While I respect most points of view, I reserve the right to edit or delete disrespectful comments, SPAM, or personal attacks on myself or other commenters. I respect your privacy; I do not track my visitors, nor do I divulge any of your personal information. Thank you, but no, I do not advertise or accept free merchandise or books (swag) for review or endorsement, nor do I accept unsolicited guest postings. Any links provided by me are a courtesy only and only for entertainment and education; I do not generate any revenue from this blog. I do my best to provide links to original work or to purchase material via Amazon, though if your work is shared or linked here and you would prefer it removed or edited, please contact me. Yes, feel free to reblog; you may quote my work as well–just list RunningOnSober.com as the source and provide a link to the post you are quoting. Any questions about anything, please email me via my “contact and resources” page.

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Last updated: April 3, 2014

213 comments

  1. Christy,
    Thanks for the follow on WP. Good for you: getting and staying gettingsober, a year recovered, being a runner, loving animals, etc. We may have a lot in common. Hope to get to know you as we blog together. When is your sobriety anniversary? I’ll be following your blog. I like everthing you wrote. There is so much power (the freedom kind of power) in the written word. Keep it up.
    With love, Lisa Neumann

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    1. Hi Lisa, I saw this comment as I decided to make a few minor updates to my page. Can you believe you were my very first commenter on my About page? I LOVE THAT! I don’t love that I didn’t reply back, but being brand new to blogging, I didn’t know to do so–I left you a comment on your blog instead. So here I am, saying thank you, and I am so happy to have you as a friend. Love you lots! Christy

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      1. Hi Swav, yes, life is very sunny and bright these days. I hope you are well and healthy these days too!
        Your no. 35 painting was very calming–all the bright colors and their swirling patterns…made me feel happy just looking at it.
        Thank you! (I live in the States, buy my ancestors are from Kilkenny County.)

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  2. great Blog your journey will touch many, many lives… We all have some sort of darkness that within us that attacks our insecurities and weaknesses and we use other things to mask our pain.. You just pulled off your mask and empowered your true self which in turn will help others remove the masks that do not need to be worn.! Blessings

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  3. I’M A QUOTE GEEK TOO!!!!! All my work emails have random quotes that I LOVE ~
    I am an on-again/off-again runner. I prefer ice hockey & biking …but all physical activity makes me happy. I just need to MOVE daily – for mental clairty and to have an excuse to have more music playing in my ears.

    I just read The Blogess – she’s hilarious. I love hilarious!! Thank you!!

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    1. I’m glad you checked her out! I met her a few months ago at a signing and she is just the sweetest and funniest lady. I have a ton of respect for her.

      I think you hit the nail on the head on why I have clicked so much with this whole running thing. Ice hockey, huh? I had a boyfriend who loved it, so I tried to get into it for him briefly, but as he and I parted ways, so did my interest in ice hockey. I’ve just never lived anywhere with ice.

      Thank you for the comment RMR.

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      1. I started playing hockey with a friend (I have always loved ice skating) and I loved playing (just defense) – then we both started running- she’s now doing iron man…I peaked at 6 miles and now I just try to run when the weather is nice (in Tucson, that’s late fall thru March)…but I’m a 3 miler.
        WHOO HOO FOR US!

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  4. I found you through a comment in another blog. The word sober in your blog name got me here. I am on that same journey. That and your music choices and writing will keep me following!

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    1. I’m so happy you found me! I wish you the best on your journey… life without buffers is quite a ride and so worth it.

      There are some wonderful folks who blog about sober living; I have a few links up on my blog roll of writers who share their experiences from all stages of the game, feel free to check them out.

      I look forward to sharing with you, thanks so much for the kind comment and for reaching out.

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        1. Awesome! Hey, I’m glad you checked back… I’m going to add a few more sites to my list this week, I was hoping I could add you too. I’ve been laughing like a mad woman tonight reading some of your posts! May I add you to my recovery list? Or would you prefer my “other awesome blogs” list? :)

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          1. Either would be fine. I have 1 page called “The Chronicles of the Frame” that is the journey from arrest to my beginning in AA. Most of the rest are like you have read. I am thrilled that you enjoy them!

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          2. You’re so welcome. It’s a rare gift to offer someone the gift of laughter. Especially to us recovery nuts that tend to take everything wayyy too seriously. You’ll be a fantastic addition.

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  5. Hi There…
    thanks for following me, I’m always honored. I’m running out to see my sponsor get a cake for 15 years tonite, but wanted to say hi, and am looking forward to reading your blog.
    Looks like we have a lot in common, sobriety, grief….but I will NEVER run!! Hah!

    Michele

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  6. Hi Running…. thanks for cruising my blog. Good to know a bit about your journey. Blogging has helped me tremendously in my recovery. Can gain perspectives in ways quite unique and distinct to other recovery experiences and communities. See ya on the blogs.

    Chaz

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  7. HEY I LIKE YOUR ABOUT, I DID HAVE THAT I AM IN RECOVERY IN MY ABOUT BUT I TOOK IT OUT, MY CLEAN DATE IS SEPTEMBER 24 I’M GETTING READY TO CELEBRATE 2 YEARS,,,HORRAY FOR ME(:!!!! THX I THINK I WILL PUT IT BACK IN MY ABOUT.

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    1. Hey girl, I’m glad you commented! I hear ya, in fact a lot of my sober friends and bloggers talk about trying to find that balance of accepting recovery as a part of who they are, without being “defined” by it, you know? I think it’s actually something to be proud of; fighting an addiction can make you a stronger and softer person. Follow your heart and share that if you want, but don’t “not” share it because of fear of what someone else would think; YOU be in control of your motivation. Hope that makes sense.

      Congrats on your upcoming 2 year mark! That’s so inspirational! Less than 3 weeks- you got this girl!

      I’m really enjoying your work, and I’m so happy you dropped by. Much love, RoS

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    1. One day I’ll be able to say, “I knew her when…” since you’re about to go all big time on us.

      Cows are really just like big dogs. Except they poop a ton more (literally) and have scratchier tongues. But unlike dogs, they make excellent tax write-offs.

      Honesty and running- two concepts that scared the beejeezus out of me just a few years ago. Life is strange! :)

      Thanks for stopping by my corner of the blogging world, much appreciated!

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    1. I think you found them, but I’ve got the weekend posts all filed as “Words for the Weekend.” I need to add my most recent running songs to the “Running Song” page, but in the interim, I’ve got them all marked in categories along the side of my homepage (songs & lyrics, running music). Hopefully you’ll find something you dig; I’m loving all the music on your blog! Tres cool!

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  8. Hey Christy… listen I enjoy your online journal, yours is one I still like to follow. It’s nice to know there are others that honestly get what I go thru on a daily basis. On a hour by hour basis really… with doubt and failure only a few steps behind. I’ve realized as tough as this journey is going to be it’s encouraging to see other addicts that are beating the odds and overcoming temptation everyday. Anyhow thanks for your inspirational quotes and positive feedback… keep on runnin sober.

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    1. Craig, wow! Thank you for the kind words, you really made my day. And I know there are so many awesome blogs out there, I humbled that you’ve stuck with me and found some things that inspire you here.

      You’re right, sometimes it is hour by bloody hell hour. They’re fewer and farther between the longer you stay sober, but you never know when those cravings are gonna jump out at you. Like little whispers from the devil on your shoulder. But I liked how you said the other day, choose to live or choose to ddd (drink, drug, die). I’m gonna die soon enough, I don’t need to speed it along.

      I’ll keep running Craig, as long as I’m able. Then I may be walkingonsober, lol. You stay sober too man- start that running plan! Thanks for the nice message!!!

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    1. That’s very kind, thank-you so much! I’ll keep on- somedays I’m a little slow- but I’m still moving forward. :) Always nice to have company along for the journey- it makes those tough days a lot more bearable. So happy for your comment and your follow. My gratitude!

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  9. Hi Christy. I am not a marathoner, or even half-marathoner, but I do run (among other things) to stay healthy. Like you, I love animals, mandarin oranges and music – every kind. Glad to have found you. It was through Le Clown. He seems to be everywhere these days ;)

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    1. Hi Fern! We’ve got a lot in common! I’ll be sure to check your blog out in more detail tomorrow.

      That dang Le Clown has some magic tricks up his sleeves, he’s really been on a roll lately. A well deserved roll for all the time he invests, truly. So glad you found me through him!

      Really glad you reached out, thank you! I look forward to sharing with you.

      PS- your picture is badass. Totally.

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  10. As a rule of the Prolific Blogger Award, http://mentalnotes1.wordpress.com/ wanted me to write a poem which incorporated all the blogs she nominated. You were in that list. I finally wrote the poem and on Thursday, November 8th, at 4pm EST, the poem entitled “The Bloggers” will be posted on my blog. The name and link to your blog are within the context of the poem. Let me know if this is ok to post. If I don’t hear back, I’ll take that as permission. I think you’ll like it though, so when it’s posted you should check it out! http://sagedoyle.wordpress.com

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    1. Hey sure, why not?! If Latoya at MentalNotes thinks you’re cool, then you most certainly are.

      Thanks for the heads up and for mentioning this. Marathon training and recovery have left me with a little catching up to do.

      I look forward to following your work! ~ Ros

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  11. And now I wanted to come and visit you! I love that you have a zoo. LOVE! I admire anyone who is a recovering substance abuser, because I know how much work goes into changing such a core thing. And I’ll just cheer you on for your marathons while I sit on the couch eating Cheetos.

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    1. Well come on!!! What are you waiting for? You’re welcome anytime, just be sure to bring extra Cheetos. Bacon flavored if they make ‘em that way. If not, we should totally make some. We’ll be rich!

      (and thank you so much for your kind words, they mean the world to me.)

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  12. Congratulations on being sober today & I love the idea of a couch to 5k programme. I am pretty much doing one of those now, but have injured my Achilles’ tendon so can’t run as obsessively as I would like (lol)

    Love the American Beauty quote…. That’s one of my favourite films :)

    And you’ve done a marathon!! Wow!! That is one of my goals…. If my foot ever gets better!!

    One day at a time xx

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  13. If you love animals, then I love you! I like animals more than most people actually. Congrats on running a marathon! Wow, awesome! Thanks for the follow, you seem like an awesome person.

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    1. Hi Lily! So great to meet you. I’ve been noticing your comments everywhere lately on mutual friends’ blogs, so I knew I needed to come over and check out your blog. You seem like a really awesome person too! And yeah, if you’re an animal lover then we will hit it off instantly. I’m a huge softie when it comes to any animal.

      I look forward to following you Lily!
      xoxo, Christy

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    1. Hey Ross, thanks for the comment! Congrats on the 3/13/11, that’s really cool! I can understand not wanting to jinx it, I’m very cautious with a lot of my choices too. Feel free to “talk” about it (or anything) here anytime you’d like, everyone is pretty awesome–a good mix of sober folks, writers, music lovers, readers, and more.

      Look forward to getting to know you and your blog! Thanks again for dropping by.

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    2. Not sure if this will notify you or not, Ross, but wanted to say happy two years! I don’t know why the heck I thought it was the 20th.

      Anyway, I’m proud of you and I really love your blog and sense of humor. Congrats on your milestone!

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  14. Congratulations on your road (and running) to recovery. The life of sobriety is a great way to live, and the only way to live for addicts. My boyfriend is almost 10 years sober this May, and if it weren’t for living a sober lifestyle, he’d either be in jail or not alive. Keep letting people know about your journey, one day at a time.

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    1. Hi Sarah, thank you so much for stopping by and for the kind words. Huge congrats to your boyfriend for nearing the ten year mark–that’s awesome! And that’s so true, given the progressing nature of addiction, most of us who don’t, won’t or can’t stop, ultimately end up in jails, institutions or morgues. Some days aren’t always easy, but when I look at those three choices, I will always gratefully choose sobriety.

      I’m glad you found me–I look forward to following your work!
      Christy

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      1. Hi Christy, I’m really glad to have found your blog because most people don’t know what sobriety means, and don’t understand the disease and the mind set of an addict or some one in recovery. It took me a while to fully grasp this, and I think it’s a huge accomplishment to embrace a sober lifestyle. I look forward to more of your posts as well. :)

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  15. Hello friend. I made a note that I wanted to come back here when I had more time to really take some time to get to know you. I was impressed by our little chats yesterday and your warmth. I’m trying to be a more conscientious blogger, lol, and not just click like but give some attention to my new friends. Not always easy with a busy schedule but rest assured you touched me and now after cruising through your site I can see why; you’re one admirable kind hearted animal loving sober gal pal! So glad for this connection. I’ll be back. Paulette :-)

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    1. You are an absolute sweetheart, Paulette! Thank you for every kind sentiment.
      I understand busy–please feel free to stop by as time permits and I’ll do the same. And I don’t mind “likes” at all, especially if they’re from known friends or followers, in fact I rather like them! :D They’re like little waves “hello.”
      Enjoy today!

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  16. I apologize I just now responded to your email. Don’t think I ignored it, I just didn’t see it. If I don’t respond, it’s a mistake, never intentional, don’t forget that :)

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    1. Hey there, I’m glad you found me! I love the name of your blog!

      Blessings to you too, feel free to browse around and comment freely. Congrats on your recovery–running has been my saving grace in that regard. And maybe a few cookies too!

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  17. I love it when the about page of a blog tells me more about the blogger her/his life and yours is awesome. I am so honoured you came and liked what you saw, I admire you for finding all those tools to keep you sober and I am looking forward to know you better :-)
    Anyes

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    1. Thank you so much Anyes, what a beautiful comment!

      I fell in love with your blog name, because I always try to walk in the light, and also because a few of my favorite people would call me Sunshine.

      Oh forgot to mention I’ve been to your beautiful city. A past beau went to SFU, and I visited a few times. It’s gorgeous!

      Thanks for dropping by–so happy our paths have crossed!
      Christy

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  18. Love American Beauty and that quote is the best in the whole movie. So nice to meet you. Congratulations on your first marathon. That is quite a transformation from alcoholic to marathon runner. Gives me hope that we can all change. I was contemplating a saying today–it’s not the person you were born, but the person you become. {{{hugs]}} Kozo

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    1. Hi Kozo, it’s a pleasure to meet you. I’m glad Eric (Le Clown) mentioned you in a comment!

      Thank you for the kind words. I truly agree that it’s not where we come from, but where end up that is most important. And it’s all about the journey… some of our journeys are just a little more arduous than others’, but I think that’s what gives us character and that oh-so-important compassion and empathy you discussed. Struggle can embitter or embolden. So nice to meet another emboldened spirit, Kozo!

      Love, Christy

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    1. These days I’m thrilled if I can get 20 miles in a week! I still find it unfathomable that I ran 26.2 (don’t forget the .2!) all in one day. I think I may be crazy, but it keeps me from going insane (most days). Thanks for stopping by, and for the nice comment!

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  19. FYI – I found my way here when I saw your comment on Cayman Thorn’s blog. Your blog name was intriguing because I first thought of ‘Running on Empty’ (love that song), and I next thought of my father who has been sober for a few decades now.

    Your writing is beautiful. I love the way you think. So much so, I’m sticking around for awhile. So run, Christy, run! I’ll hold your towel.

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    1. Woo-hoo! I’m so glad you’re planning to stick around, I’ve quickly grown quite fond of you and your work!

      So much to love in your comment–I am thrilled for your dad with his double-digit sobriety, and I’m thrilled you found me through Cayman. I’d only recently “met” Cayman via mutual mentions on Guapola’s blog. I really love this domino effect of meeting new friends through blogging. And, yay!, you immediately got the Jackson Browne reference!

      I’m so glad you commented, thank you!
      ~ Christy

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    1. Hi Patty! I found you via a “recommended link” when I was drafting my next training recap post, so you’ll actually be getting a mention on Tuesday. :) I can’t wait to explore your blog more in the coming days. Thanks for visiting me in return, keep on running! ~ Christy

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  20. *Hello Christy!,
    Thanks for coming by my Blog today, I appreciate any Recovery support I can get!…LOL…I just love your blog here, and I just added you to my list of *Recovery Blog Spotlight posts*. I’ll be looking maybe in a week or so to share your awesome blog here. I feel addiction is addiction, no matter the Type, they all are cunning and the habits & behaviors we pick along the way when we were in our addiction are Similar for one to another.
    I will now be following you as well! Have a Great Weekend, Catherine :-)

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    1. Hi Catherine, it’s so nice of you to stop by and comment, thank you! Addiction is addiction, true, no matter if it’s to alcohol, drugs, sex, food, people, gambling, shoes, and on and on… I said recently they’re all part of the same elephant. :)

      It’s always nice to meet others either in or supportive of recovery. That’s very nice to include me in your spotlight–thank you! It’s a pleasure to meet you, Christy

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    1. Thank you so much, Catherine, that’s very kind of you. Always gives me the warm fuzzies when someone thinks so kindly of me. You do so much to give back to others–what a joy you are!
      Thanks again, Christy

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  21. Hi there – just wanted to say, thanks for the follow and well done on keeping sober. My husband is coming up to a year free of alcohol. He’ll always be an alcoholic, but hopefully, he’ll remain a recovering one. Looking forward to reading more of your posts – LOVE the music!

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    1. Thank you SO much for the comment and for checking things out over here. I actually found you when I was searching WP for some freshly pressed blogs on alcoholism–one of my friends was recently recognized and I thought it very awesome and unconventional, and I got to wondering if it had happened before. So cool that I read your “before” as your husband was entering rehab, then to hear a year later he is still going strong in sobriety. Kudos to him and to you–it’s a family affair for sure, ain’t it? I try to stay in touch with all sides of it–those fighting, those recovering, and those loved ones affected–it keeps me in awe of this disease and keeps me from complacency. Your input is always welcome here, please, it’s a very friendly and respectful community.

      So glad you stopped by, I’m really happy to have found your blog and flattered that you like mine too. :)
      Christy

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    1. Hi Lala, thank you for the kind words. I do try to have fun! I’ve learned life is way too short to do otherwise, wouldn’t you agree?

      Looks like you have quite the talent for writing poetry, kudos! Lots of poetry and music around here. As you browse around, be sure to check out my blogging friend, SageDoyle; he’s one of my favorite poets:

      http://sagedoyle.wordpress.com/

      So nice to meet you, Christy

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  22. Hi Christy! Thanks for coming to my blog and your comment response! I love what you are doing over here! I will def. be following you. I love what you said about singer-songwriters…I was just thinking about this on our last vacation (filled with lots of country-music in the car). I love when artists record their own songs, b/c you really feel like you are getting a window into who they are. I am always disappointed when I find out someone else wrote it.

    Keep up all of your good work…running, etc. Great thing going on here!

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    1. Thanks Kate! It seems like we both share a love for inspiring quotes and thoughtful prose. I actually need to include some more country music in my shares here, it has some of the best song-writers!, but admittedly I don’t listen to a lot of the new country that’s out. Lots of Johnny Cash and Willie Nelson here, LOL, though I love Pistol Annies!

      I look forward to following your work–love your “Wild West” post–the pix *almost* look like my little town. :)

      Thanks for stopping by! C-

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  23. Hi Christy,
    I really appreciated how you differentiated between what helped you Get Sober and what helps you Stay Sober. I don’t think that is addressed very often or well in the recovery circles.
    I’m not a runner by any stretch of the imagination, but we have a love of music and books in common for sure! :-)

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    1. Hi Denise, So wonderful to hear from you, thank you! I’m so happy to have found your blog via Bornbyariver. From reading some of your posts and comments, I see how well loved you are and what a difference you make in the lives of so many.

      It would appear we also both have resilience and perseverance in common too, having shared, and moved beyond, opposite sides of the alcohol coin.

      Recovery is always dynamic and evolving; as we grow, so should our tools to help us stay recovered. While I’m not sure running and blogging will remain forever in my future, though I hope they do!, I’m pretty sure honesty and not drinking will remain steadfast. :) A pleasure to meet you!, Christy

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    1. Hi Bev, thanks so much for dropping by here and on my other post. That’s very kind of you! I gotta say, I’m really intrigued by your blog name… I’ll be dropping by your place to nose around :)

      I do try to stay busy, but I really love the blogging community. I’ve met some really wonderful people here, and I’m so glad to meet you too!

      Love, Christy

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  24. Hi Christy, thank you for following my blog soulofagypsy.me. I am so touched by your story and inspired by your writing style. You are an amazing person, thank you for sharing your story with us. I love running too, although where i live its too hot to run outdoors, but when i do run, it feels like touching freedom and you never want to stop:)
    Good luck with your marathon. Looking forward to reading more of your inspiring posts.
    Nadine

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    1. Hi Nadine! Thanks so much for stopping by. I appreciate your recent follow too–apologies for not getting by sooner to say hello. You have a beautiful site, I can certainly relate to the traveling heart and gypsy soul. I hope as you search, you don’t forget to appreciate the beauty of the moment around you and in you. It took me a while to learn to be grateful for each moment.

      One of my favorite Rumi quotes:

      “You wander from room to room
      Hunting for the diamond necklace
      That is already around your neck!”

      So wonderful to connect with you!
      Love,
      Christy

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  25. Hi Christy — I’m glad I ‘bumped’ into your site. While I’m not an alcoholic, I have been around it. I go to Al Anon, Adult Children of Alcoholic meetings. I feel like, though, while I never developed alcoholism, I don’t consider my mindset that far off from someone in AA, if that makes any sense. I like that you mention that recovery can come in various ways– doesn’t have to be AA. I do believe in 12 step programs but I have to remember that they may not be for everyone.

    I’m a runner as well, though I can never imagine have the tenacity to do a marathon. Congratulations!

    I enjoyed reading your posts and the About Me section. Your main site photo is very beautiful/peaceful. I actually just posted a Youtube link where late night host Craig Ferguson talks about his dealings with alcoholism, I thought it was interesting:

    http://sleep100years.wordpress.com/2013/09/09/swimsuits-craig-ferguson/

    Take care!

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    1. Hi GB, so glad you found me! Oh yeah, sigh, I know a thing or two about codependency and ACOA too. All different heads of the same beast, I am really coming to believe. Darlene Lancer, and of course, Melody Beattie have some excellent resources on codependency. Darlene’s blog is:

      http://www.whatiscodependency.com/blog/

      Craig Ferguson is hilarious, I’ll take a look. I shared a piece from his book a few weeks ago in one of my weekend posts:

      http://runningonsober.com/2013/06/15/words-for-the-weekend-dear-sobriety-volume-39/

      Welcome to the blogging world! It’s nice to meet you,
      Christy

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  26. I agree, alcohol, codependency, ACOA etc are all heads of the same beast.

    C. Ferguson is hilarious. I just started his book that you referred to — pretty good so far. Take care and good to “meet” you too! GB

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  27. Hi Christy. The first thing I thought of when I saw your blog title was the song “Running on Empty” by J.B. I have always loved that song and have it on a greatest hits CD. I’m so happy for you and the accomplishment of staying sober. Filling my life with good things and getting out of the old lifestyle, along with God changing my heart and helping me do a 180 is how I have stayed sober for the last 26 years. And I am only 52. So I pray you will live the rest of your life without that influence. That is so great that you run! I’m glad I found your blog.
    Patsy

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    1. Patsy, hi! I’m so glad you found me too, so that I could find you! I find it incredibly inspiring that you have 26 years of sobriety, and how very cool that you made the choice to take back control while you were so young. I have such admiration for anyone who chooses sobriety, but especially those who do so either early or late in life.

      And, yay, you got the JB reference right off! Music is a big part of my life. Of course I had to think of Patsy Cline when I saw your name. But here’s something cool for you to think about… Running on Empty was featured in one of my favorite movies. That same movie started and ended with a white feather floating through the air… “Life is like a box of chocolates…” :)

      Wonderful to meet you, happy our paths crossed,
      Christy

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      1. Great to meet you also, Christy! I saw your blog on Freshly Pressed. I haven’t made it there yet! :-)

        Patsy Cline! I haven’t heard anyone say they thought of her right off when meeting me in a long time! I like a few of her songs. ;-)

        You know, my dad quit drinking for good just a few months after I did. He drank for almost his whole life up to that point; I believe he was almost 60 and he never touched a drop after that. He died at 83. So it can be done.

        Yes, ole’ Forrest Gump is one of my favorite movies also. I love Lieutenant Dan even though he definitely had a drinking problem for awhile after the war! Did they play that song when he was running and being followed by people? I can’t remember! (And I don’t have the movie any more).

        And yes “Life is like a box of chocolates; you never know what you’re gonna get.” Not sure if that last part was exactly right.

        Patsy
        Great to meet you also Christy!

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  28. Thank you kindly for joining us at wePoets, it’s much appreciated. We’d be happy to showcase any of your work should you want to share. Congratulations on sobriety! I know that’s a huge accomplishment.

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    1. Thanks for the invitation to check out your site. Looks like a great venture, Zoe and Kira, good luck with it!

      I may take you up on the offer as I dust the layers off the poetry pen. Happy to also share your work–if I see any pieces that may fit in with a weekend theme I’ll certainly let you know.

      Thanks for your kind words on my sobriety. All my best, Christy

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  29. Hi, Just reading your “about” page makes me very happy to have met you. I too had a very deep relationship with alchohol, cigarettes, and all things that shouldn’t be ingested into your body (and by that I do NOT mean drugs) I mean foods. As a result I had to have a double lung transplant in Sept. of 2005. Haven’t smoked since 2004. Drinking is not on my list of things to do.

    I will follow you and see how your are working and living your life now. I’m sure I can learn many things from you.

    Be blessed!
    SandyO

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    1. Hi SandyO, so glad you dropped by, thank you!

      Bless you on your double lung transplant, wow. I lost my mom to lung cancer. She went through major lung surgery and never quite regained her health or stamina afterward. Whatever you can do live cleanly and healthily–a complete holistic package of physical, spiritual and mental–I applaud and encourage. Oh yes, food can be as toxic and as addictive as any hard-core drug out there. And harder to quit really, because we must eat to survive.

      Thankful for your comment, and thankful you found me,
      Christy

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      1. Hi, So sorry to hear of your mom’s passing from lung cancer. It is a difficult road when you are addicted to tobacco. . .I used it for over 34 years and it finally caught up with me ~ hence the double lung transplant. The strange thing is I have to be very careful about what foods I do eat or the things I drink. For example, I was cautioned not to drink green tea. Why? Because it could boost my immune system and for someone with a compromised immune system due to transplant, to boost my immune system could cause me to reject my lungs. I have to watch out for anything that says it could boost my immune system. It’s almost a bizarre thing, now that I really want to be healthy, I have to watch that I don’t eat too many organic or other types of foods that might me named “health” foods if they are something that would boost the immune system is out.

        Maybe that is just poetic justice for someone who ignored all the signals for health before. Now I know that the are many other ways to eat and be healthy. My first comment just before may be a bit tongue in cheek.

        I wish you all the best and look forward to hearing more.

        Be blessed
        SandyO

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        1. I’m sure it’s a very tricky road to walk, Sandy, I imagine much like a tight rope in a circus. I’d never thought about the immune balance–or overbalance. Ironic maybe, but not necessarily justice. They say god works in mysterious ways, and mine no doubt has a weird sense of humor. :)

          I’m glad our paths crossed, Sandy, you’re a pretty cool lady!

          I’ll stop by “your place” to visit more with you soon. All my best, Christy

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    1. Hi Ann! Me too! I’m the Christy from Words for the Weekend, but I think I told you I’d be dropping by as RoS. Our paths so seem to run quite parallel. Even our topic of shame today (loved that post of yours). So glad to have met you.

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  30. I read your story on the WordPress news page and I was touched. Congratulations on overcoming your addiction. It’s very difficult to stop something we believe helps us through our day, whether good and bad. Here’s to more success for you. :)

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  31. I just read the article in the WordPress.com news about selecting your site’s title. It takes strength to be honest in writing. It is something I hope to develop. Thank you for sharing your journey. I’m glad to have found your site.

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    1. Hi Barbara, it’s so nice to meet you. I’m really grateful WordPress connected us, I think you’ve got a nice writing style. I look forward to learning and sharing with each other.

      I noticed your post about letting go of perfection, and it’s something that I’ve written about a few times here, and probably will in the futures too.

      Leave it Like it is was one of my first posts–it’s rough and choppy, and dare I say imperfect?, but the song is good and you may enjoy it.

      Also, I did a quotes volume on Anne Lamott, and she had a few about perfectionism.

      Feel free to browse around and comment freely. Thank you so much for finding me,
      Christy

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    1. Hi Rose, congrats to your daughter, that’s so wonderful to hear she’s nearing three years. I’ll be sure to stop by her place this week. I’ve followed yours! I have family in IN so I was happy to connect with you. I appreciate you finding me via Grace.
      Love, Christy

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  32. Hi Christy, I had to nominate you for a Sunshine Award. I’m so proud of your blog being spotlighted! You are always there for me and such an inspiration. Thank you!
    Debbie

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  33. Last drink 30th Sept 2009. Just never opened the next one. Good luck with all you do. (I ran a marathon myself back in 1982 and have done a few half marathons since. These days I mostly cycle for exercise and to see what I can see. My lungs are not great (40 years smoking…packed in 30 Jan 2010) and very dodgy knees from all that running in the eighties in poor shoes)). Love.

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    1. Hi Simon, So glad you found me so that I could check out your place too. I’m absolutely craving ravioli now!
      Congrats on your sobriety. Keep not opening that next one!
      And you gave up smoking too–good for you.
      I want to take up cycling, maybe do a tri one of these days, but truth is, I’m scared to ride on the roads with all these crazy drivers around here.
      Hope you had a great weekend, Christy

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  34. Just started following your blog. Not only are you a wonderful writer, but an inspiration too! You give me hope and courage in my journey. Thank you.

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  35. This is wonderful. You have to know that you are an inspiration because none of this is easy, no matter how many times you fall (not the 5k, or the giving up alcohol, among other things!)

    So congratulations to you, and all the best with reaching your current and future goals :)

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  36. I am amazed that I just happened on this site today. I had to bring our little puppy man to the Rainbow Bridge yesterday. We also had a Reiki friend who helped me connect with his needs through his journey (bladder cancer). This is an exhausting process. I have 16 other critters counting on me to continue loving and caring for them while I count on them to fill that larger than life hole in my heart. Thank you for letting me walk a little with you tonight. I can barely put one foot in front of the other right now, leaning on your loss helped. “Don’t they know its the end of the world, it ended when you said goodbye”

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    1. Oh honey, I’m so sorry. I know it’s hard. Especially the long fight with cancer–it’s an emotional roller coaster isn’t it?
      And it does feel like the end of the world when we have to say goodbye. The sun does go on shining, the birds do keep singing, all while our hearts are breaking.
      16 other babies? Bless you. I love animal lovers.
      So grateful you found me.
      Pet those babies for me and remember it’s okay to smile. Your little guy would want you to be happy. <3, Christy

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    1. Get out of town! Wow!
      Congrats, Ray, that’s really awesome.
      I’m catching up on comments and visitors, and you were so sweet to comment on my post about Spot (so sorry about your loss too), so I stopped by to visit and fell in love with your photography. It’s breathtaking, truly. And I adore NO too. I may hit you up about featuring some of your work over on my Words for the Weekend site. ;)

      21 years. Hell of a deal. Congrats, new friend.
      -Christy

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      1. Thank you for the kind words about my work. I don’t think it would be where it is today without those 21 years. Very early on, I read something by Author Pete Hamell in his book called, “A Drinking Life,” in which he said something like when I drank, I wrote a book. When I got sober I wrote ten. The bell rang in my head. :)

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        1. Ah, yes, Hamell’s book I think was to many before me, what Caroline Knapp’s Drinking: A Love Story is to so many of us now. Knapp even mentioned Pete’s book in hers. (I have it, but had forgotten about it, so thanks for the reminder to find it.)

          So many of us worry we’ll lose our “voice” or “talent” when we stop drinking, but usually that’s when we find our real and most authentic “voice.” All the stuff I wrote and thought so brilliant when I drank, I look back at now, and (assuming I can even decipher it) is actually quite horrid. Ha!

          Anyway… it’s nice to be sober with you! Congrats again and thanks for leading the way for us behind you. I’ll hit 3 years on May 6; HP willing.

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          1. Three years. Excellent. Keep going. As far as working under any kind of influence, I know that my work improved dramatically a few years after I stopped drinking. I don’t what Hamell’s book was since most of the people I met in AA at the time had never heard of it. Most sponsors at the time did not like for a couple of reasons. Mostly because it’s no AA-centric.

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  37. Hello,
    I really like your introduction to yourself and your life. I am a student at an American university situated in Bulgaria. I study journalism and right now am writing a blog about college students and their religion http://religioninyourlife.wordpress.com/. I really like that you said honesty was a tool to help you through hard times. Being honest is also integral for being a journalist and I want to abide by this every moment of my own life.
    Thank you!

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  38. Hi Christy. I too am a recovering alcoholic and addict and that’s the main focus of my writing. Great to have found you. xo

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    1. Oh wonderful! Congrats to you on your recovery! So very glad you found me, thank you.
      I’ll be sure to stop by your place to say hi soon.
      Make yourself at home and comment and click around — everyone is super nice and supportive.
      Welcome!
      xo, Christy

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  39. Love your blog. Friend of Bill and a fellow runner here too. It’s funny how sobriety works. I went from deaths door to a sober, vegetarian, non smoking marathon runner, boxer, workout fiend. I guess we get hooked on endorphins:) keep up the great work!

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    1. Thanks B, it’s so nice to meet you. Congrats on total health 180! I think you’re on to something with the endorphins, so many of us turn to exercise to exorcise our demons. Running definitely saved my butt (and kept my weight gain to a minimum after eating all the extra sugar that I got hooked on too!)

      My friend and contributor Michelle Terry (she does the Braveheart pieces here) just mentioned boxing. It must be fabulous exercise — I drool over her deltoids.

      I appreciate your kind comment– thank you! -Christy

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  40. Hi! Nice to meet you… :) How clicks and surfing through blogs go in a peculiar way… I am sure I will love your blog and I am just about to go and read your Life in 6 songs thing. :)

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    1. Don’t you love the whole click ‘n surf thing? A friend of a friend of a friend of a friend :) Almost like we get led where we need to go when we need to be there. It is quite peculiar!

      Enjoy the Life in 6 songs–if you’re a music lover, you should really get a kick out of it.
      Nice to meet you Ivy! Glad you found me :)
      Christy

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      1. Definitely… Like a party when someone “knows” someone but we learn and read so much more than just a “hi” and “Hello”. And that is beautiful because we can relate, and nothing is an accident nor everything’s a fate :) I’ve listen to a lady speak a poem and now I got her stuck in my head feeling lyrical, I think I might wrote in rhymes :D

        Read the first sentence in my last post and you will be aware of my connection with music. I don’t know if I could narrow it to just 6 songs though. That would be a real challenge.

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    1. It really is, Barb, it really is. So thrilled to hear about your 31 years! Huge congrats to you and your husband. I am a couple weeks shy of three years.
      It’s always nice to hear from others with long-term sobriety, thank you so much for your note! -Christy

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    1. Haha, I just started running again after taking some time off, so I’ll take any opportunity for a break :D

      But seriously, thank you so much for the award! I’ll drop by your place this week. :) xoxo

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  41. Hey Christy! I was lead her by Daile at Kissmeoutofdesire. I’m also a recovering alcoholic (August 20th, 2011 for me). It must be exciting to be coming up on three years! I’m about two weeks away from 1000 days. I really enjoy your Life in 6 songs series. Looking forward to catching up on this site!

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    1. Hey Brother Jon, it’s so nice to meet you. It is pretty exciting to be knocking on 3 years–tomorrow, wow! You’re not too far behind me… Congrats to you on your sobriety.

      I think I remember meeting you a ways back. You’d done a music post that got Freshly Pressed? It was around when I took a short hiatus, so I’m glad you “found” me again.

      Have a great day, I’ll drop by to say hi sometime, Christy

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  42. Hi!

    I absolutely love your blog – it is really inspiring to read about someone else who has found meaning and vitality through running. Keep it up – you have one hell of a lot going for you!

    Mike

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    1. Hey thanks Mike! I really appreciate hearing from you. Means a lot to me.
      I browsed your about page–did I read you had a marathon in April? How’d it go?
      Thanks for swinging by, Christy

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      1. Hi Christy,
        I guess I need to update my ‘about page’ – I ran the London Marathon in April 2013. It was my second time in that race – this year I will be running 175 miles in 10 days to raise awareness for mental health. I have a really addictive personality; running helps me channel a potentially destructive habit into something good. I just love seeing those miles tick by!
        I have had my fair share of dark moments over the years; I now am a passionate patron for mental health research and like to write about my experiences whenever I can. I feel I lost my way a few years ago and, through running, maybe one day I will arrive home. If I don’t, however, it’s no biggie and it’s been one hell of a journey!
        It’s through reading others experiences, and seeing great examples of those – like yourself – who won’t give in that have enabled me to do this. So thanks :)
        Am loving your writing,
        Mike

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        1. Wow, that’s phenomenal. I tip my hat to you. I hear you on the channeling that addictive energy. Some of us are just wired that way–if we can focus it on healthy, creative behavior and even use it for a good cause, then all the better.
          Run, Mike, run! :)

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  43. I just want to know why WordPress won’t let me just follow you already?! I think this is the third time I’ve stopped by and found the button un-clicked again! Boo. I’ll be in the corner, pouting.

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    1. Hi Jennie! I don’t know what’s up with the “follows”, I’ve had the same problem with a few since around December. Christy’s away for the week so I’m “blogsitting” (which is why I’m replying instead of her ;) ) Come out of the corner and we’ll give you some cake, okay? :)

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          1. Right?! The red dye is made from crushed beetles. (No, really!) Also, one of the goriest things I ever saw was a red velvet cake at a baby’s first birthday party. You know how the parents let the kid dig into the cake with both hands and smear it everywhere and it’s really cute? Yeah, well, when the cake is deep blood red, it looks like the kid is the spawn of Satan and just went on a killing spree.

            …not like I have strong feelings about it or anything. ;)

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          2. EW! EW! EW! Beatles? Please don’t tell me that’s how they get the red dye for red m&ms too! I’m hysterical at the mental picture of the kid covered in blood red cake, that would be a little disturbing LOL It wouldn’t occur to me to serve anything but chocolate cake to a little kid! Although having them eat blue dyed frosting makes it look like they went on a rampage in smurfville ;)

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          3. Oh come on. You know as soon as she said Spawn of Satan you were all “I’m totally making red velvet cake and going with a vampire theme for Sam’s next party.”

            I want to rent a kid just to have a red velvet party!

            Beetles are good. Taste like chicken. Just crunchier.
            :)

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    2. Well, see, there was that one time that Jennie (CK Hope) and Michelle and I broke the internet … And well, let’s just say Al Gore (the inventor if the interwebz) gets very nervous when Jennies and Christinas try to hook up anywhere on the net.

      But seriously, I dunno! I’ve seen you sub a couple times (thanks!) Have you gotten any posts from RoS? We post @ Monday at a minimum. I can check with WordPress if we need?

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  44. Look at how happy, healthy, and beautiful you look and sound. Smashing down stereotypes. Inspiring to newbie runners and those new to recovery (and I’m both)… off to explore your archives. :)

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    1. Awww aren’t you just the most awesome person ever?!
      Thanks for your sweet note. Enjoy the archives, and jump right in to the comments. Everyone is very friendly. Click around the blog roll links too. Good stuff. Couch to 5k … can’t recommend it enough. c25k.com Or if you have an iphone, just search c25k in the app store.

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  45. Hi there great to meet you and all through having Paul blog on my page. I am always delighted and surprised to get new followers and grateful too. Hope to see more of you. Keep well happy and sober. Xxx

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  46. I am just finding your blog and I love it! My name is Amy and I am 13 months sober! ;) I am looking forward to keeping up with your blog for inspiration down here in Texas!

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    1. Well hey there Amy! Great to meet you, girlie. Congrats on your 13 months–that’s awesome. Months 12-18 were when I started to feel half-way comfortable in my skin (I started blogging at almost 12 months.) This will be a good year for you!

      I’m a Georgia girl living in Texas :)

      Enjoy the blog! There’s a little bit of everything here, feel free to explore and click around too–everyone is super friendly!

      -Christy

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  47. I just discovered your blog and look forward to reading more. I am also unable to drink in moderation and have been sober for 4 years with a sobriety day of May 24, 2010. We both quit in May, I’m a runner also having completed 5 marathons in my day and an animal lover. However, I only have two dogs versus your corral of animals! Glad I found you.

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    1. Hi Dawn, I’m so glad you found me too so that I could find you :) Looks like you have a great site. Your word for the year impressed me . . . “moments.” Nice! For this year, mine is “brave.” And I’ve certainly been given many moments to be brave, so for that I guess I can be thankful.

      That’s awesome about your May 24 date! Congrats!!! May has been a pretty lucky month for many of us to get, more specifically to STAY, sober.

      Also awesome are your 5 marathons. Wow! I’ve done one full and several halves, but I know I have at least one or two more fulls in me, health permitting. I’ve got my eye on a May ’15 marathon!

      Great to meet you, thanks for finding me, Christy

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      1. Hi Christy

        Somone from a LifeRing email list posted one of your blogs,
        Advice Too Good to Not Share (on quitting drinking)
        by runningonsobe, he is a marathon runner so I’m not surprised he found your blog.

        I did not read it but did scan to the bottom where you mentioned LifeRing and a few of the other programs, “Choice in Recovery” is what works including no program at all.

        I got sober online, I actually had to look up the word blog years ago thought it was a scary movie, I don’t blog or read much but do often talk about having a smorgasbord of recovery stuff, including chat, lists of all kinds and I have started many F2F meetings.

        But really there is still little choice in recovery imo, certainly what you are doing here is part of that smorgasbord of stuff that is out there but someone in the throws of their addiction can’t seem to find the real help that is out there because everything still points to the steps and HP programs and imo may be doing more damage than good.

        I’m sure Lifering would list your site if you wanted them too and we have a pretty good blog going at lifering.org.

        Take care

        Bob O.

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        1. Hi Bob, appreciate you taking the time to stop by and comment, thanks!
          And please say thanks to your friend for sharing my post. I’ve known a couple wonderful people who were (are) helped by LifeRing and the Delphi forums. I’ll be sure to swing by the group blog to say hello.
          You are right that most people are unaware the help available: most either think 12 Steps or white knuckling are their only choices–even the courts order the 12 Step programs. And while they undoubtedly help for some, there are many who could be better helped by a different program or support system.

          Knowledge is power and choices are power too.

          Nice to meet you! Hope to see you around in the future, Christy

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  48. Hi Christy, I just wanted to tell you that you and your blog have been an inspiration for me. Today is my Day One, and I just finished my first walk/run with the C25K app on my phone. Thanks for the motivation. xo, Annie

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